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Tuesday, July 29th, 2008

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10:49a
Always bring your camera and your iPod
A few things before I go off and attempt to accomplish things today:

Yesterday, I had lunch at one of my favorite restaurants, Seafood Palace. Mostly, I go for their lunch buffet. Yesterday I was calmy doing the sudoku when this irascible lady comes in. She's clearly never been in the place before, and asks questions of the staff. They don't speak English all that well, and I helped out. After explaining a little about the soups and sauces, she asked how long I'd lived in Mpls and, glancing at the camera, whether I was a photographer.

We got in a conversation which lasted the rest of the meal. To make a long story short, she was Barbara Carlson, former "outrageous" radio personality and newspaper columnist and ex-wife of the former governor. We had a grand ol' time. We talked radio, politics and computers, among other things. She's doesn't do computers. ("I'm like John McCain." "Don't put yourself down.") I left her my card, mentioning that I'll help her with computers, or maybe talk to her for the RNC. Probably not, but you never know.

I love random encounters that work out well.

Last week I did an interview with my iPod, and yesterday I tried to download it. I attached the iPod Classic via USB, and the screen came up with the usual, "attached, do not disconnect" message. After a few hours, I wanted to disconnect it. The iPod wasn't listed as an external device, and I couldn't eject it anywhere. I restarted the Mac. Still nothing. The screen had the same message, but the time was frozen at "8:58pm", about the time I originally plugged it in, iirc. It sayed the same even after I pulled it off. I just looked now, about 12 hours later. The power is run down. We'll see what can happen. I have an appointment at the Genius Bar at the Mall at 12:10. Maybe they can help.

I'm scheduled to go see a Dress Rehearsal of one of the Fringe shows tonight, semi-officially beginning the Fringe for me. I should do some interviews and make a podcast/KFAI news item for tomorrow. I hope the iPod is working so I can do live interviews...

update The iPod worked after it had some power, and I've downloaded my test Voice Memos and uploaded some new songs... but the interview I did for the Fringe didn't make it. Probably won't hurt any podcast I make -- it was very crowded and I doubt the sound was good -- but I'm annoyed anyway. Cancelled the Genius Desk, and am hanging out.
2:38p
A response to Orson Scott Card
In davidwilford's blog entry Orson Scott Card makes a solemn promise, he quotes Card in Why and how to defend marriage:
Married people are doing something that is very, very hard -- to combine the lives of a male and female, with all their physical and personality differences, into a stable relationship that persists across time.

When they are able to create children together, married people then provide the role models for those children to learn how to become a man or a woman, and what to expect of their spouse when they themselves marry.

When a heterosexual couple cannot have children, their faithful marriage still affirms, in the eyes of other people's children, the universality of the pattern of marriage.

When a heterosexual couple adopts children who are not their genetic offspring, they affirm the pattern of marriage and generously confer its blessings on children who might otherwise have been deprived of its benefits.
I started to reply in David's LJ, but it got too long, so it goes here.

Orson Scott Card is making two assumptions: That children are the property of their parents and that role models for a committed relationship only come in Mother and Father.

The first one, I don't have a problem with. Marriage -- the legal contract -- is about property and inheritance. The reason a child is "illegitimate" is because the legal contract does not include them. Genetics are not as important as the legal documents. "Reproduction" is defined as "when the kid is born", not when they were conceived, or with whom. That's why we have shotgun weddings (eg Ronald Reagan and Nancy). That's why one can adopt. (That's what "born again" originally meant in the tribal culture of Israel.) A "legitimate" child is so because of a piece of paper, not because the signatories contributed DNA.

Fortunately for children and unfortunately for Card's argument, all these legal rights can be conferred through other types of contracts. Heinlein's "line marriages" or gay unions or whatever. Draw up the legal contract and sign. The law has changed in response to the changing culture, and will continue to do so.

As to his second point, "the universality of the pattern of marriage", he seems to be ignoring thousands of years of cultural contra-indicators and, more importantly, sixty years of television programming.

a) The family unit is no guarantee of successfully raising kids. Too many families are dysfunctional and pass their dysfunction to their offspring. Card is assuming that the scion of two people is automatically loved and raised properly, and that's not justified by any historical research. Indeed, it's only in the last few hundred years that the modern concept of the "nuclear family" was the major engine of child-rearing. It takes a village, or at least an extended family. Some kids are raised by their nannies. Even today, many cultures (including some branches of Card's Mormonism) don't believe in the "faithful marriage" model of the family and practice various forms of polygamy.

b) The kinship relationships and sex of those rearing the child are less important than the love imparted. Card is further assuming that love can never exist except under a legal marriage contract. That's foolish on the surface of it: Some kids survive orphanages. And one just has to look at television programs, from Family Affair to The Courtship of Eddie's Father to Bonanza to Buffy the Vampire Slayer to see examples of single-parent families (often with the help of Mr. French or Giles) that raise kids successfully.

If the love exists between two people, then the love will extend to the children. If it doesn't, then it won't. This is not a hard concept.

I am neither in favor nor against the concept of "gay marriages". My "small-l-libertarian" leanings are coming out. My grandmother used to say, "relationships work when both partners contribute 90%" and I see no reason why the two have to be of different sexes or why there only has to be two. Yes, I think a dyad has the potential to be more stable. I'm in favor of a committed monogamous relationship between people who love each other. There are other kinds of committed relationships that work, too.

When it comes to raising kids the more love the better. The greater the knowledge pool of the caregivers, the smarter and more independent will be the child.

Okay, I'm a romantic. Call me a romantic. You know you want to.

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